How to Choose the Best

I’ve been mulling something over in my mind for the last few days.

Okay, let’s be real, I’ve been thinking about it for a loooong time.

I’ve always been one to get caught up in asking people what they think. Always looking for advice, research, the best answer…

There is no such thing as “the best”.

Stay with me.

So, you go to the ice cream shop with your friend and she swears that chocolate ice cream is the best. That if you’re looking for the best flavor, that’s it. Point blank, end of story. But is she right?

Well, in her experience, she is. She thinks it’s the best because it’s what works for her.

Think about when you go to a mattress store. Do you buy the firmer mattress because that’s what Jane over there said is the best? Or do you go by what you know, what you’ve experienced?

Being, having, or doing the best cannot come from anywhere but you and where you are and where you want to go. Want to be the best at poker or your job? It’s about finding where you struggle and working to improve. Want to have the best couch ever? It’s about knowing what you like and dislike, and staying true to it.

The “best” was never meant to be a competition between two (or more) things. It really comes down to what you as a person need or want.

When you go to the grocery store, do you buy the big shiny bottle of laundry detergent because it says it’s “the best”? Or do you go to the one you used for years that has never failed you because you’ve trial-and-errored your way through them all and you know you’ve got something good?

The next time you need something, don’t look for “the best”. Look for what helps you improve the problem or outcome of what you want.

Don’t listen to what everyone else says. You know what’s best. 😉