How To Be Successful 

Many people think that being “successful” is extremely hard. Many people also think that the only way to obtain success is to wake up at 4am and jump into action before you’ve even had time to take a breath. Well, while that might work for some, I’m here to tell you that being successful can be achieved in a different way. 

I guess it depends on your definition of success. Is it how much money you make? How many hours you put in? Whether or not you work for a wealthy company, or what brand of clothes you can afford? What if success wasn’t about money? In other words, what if your success what determined by something much simpler- the quality of your life? 

I recently started immersing myself in the “life coach/self-employed/business owner” niche, and quickly became obsessed with the idea that my “success” was dependant on me having the perfect life- waking up before dawn, working out till exhaustion, and eating every available suppliment under the sun, along with keeping a schedule of those things I had to do that day, keeping up with my relationships, making sure I was making extreme bank, and running a six-figure company, all before I went to bed (which obviously would be at nine!). I became obsessed with the idea that my life had to be Instagram perfect. I use this term because every picture on someone’s page isnt really creating the full picture of what their life is really like, you mostly only see the good parts. 

Anyway, in thinking about this “lifestyle” and getting more immersed in it, I realized something. This isn’t how I ever lived, and this isn’t how I wanted to live. I didn’t want to be obsessed with every decision I had to make that day, or whether I was going to prioritize things so that I missed out on other things equally as important… I would much rather be happy than rich. 

And that’s what changed my mind. That’s what redefined my definition of success. To me, success shouldn’t be determined because of how much money you’re making or what’s in your house. Success should be defined by how happy you are, what things and people you’re around that mean something to you, and a job you love.  

Your life is supposed to be fun and happy, not worrisome and busy 24/7. Don’t get me wrong, I still want to to run my own brand/company/ something of the like one day, but I will not let it control my life. I want my life to be filled with love and optimism, and helping other people find that. 

If you are the kind of person that believes in absolute order and working 24/7, go right ahead! I’m not saying that this way is wrong, I’m just saying it’s not for me. I want to be successful by finding inner peace and the things that set my soul on fire. I want to be defined my the people I help and the amount of times I’ve laughed so hard I cried. I want success, but I want my version of it. 

So I encourage you to do the same. Find your version of success, and don’t listen to what others have e to say. Live the life you’re meant to live.

What’s your version of success?

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How To Beat Depression

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or professional, and this is not medical information, only advice. 

Ah, depression. The old friend who constantly shows up with dreary eyes who sits in the corner of your room. She tells you she wants to go out and have fun, but she pushes you down when you try to leave. She can be confusing, and at times even scary. But I’ve learned how to beat her. Actually, I’ve learned to coexist with Depression. 

Back when I was about 15-17, my depression was at its worst. I would lie in bed, wanting desperately to go out and find a distraction from the thoughts in my head, but I felt shackled to the mattress. I’d go to school exhausted, staring at the clock until I could be in the solitary comfort of my room. In or out , I was never really happy. 

School dragged me down. The curriculum, the teachers, the students. Being alone left me to confront my thoughts and wage wars in my head that weren’t even reasonable. I struggled with self harm since I was 14, and my family probably doesn’t even know about it. 

Over time, I began to change. I began to analyze what was happening, why and when I felt the way I did. You see, depression isn’t always just random. Sometimes you can cause it without even realizing it. Take school for example. I realized that I was hanging around the wrong people. People invested in drama and ridiculous arguments- they don’t deserve your attention, let alone the sake of your well-being. So slowly (even though it hurt), I started drifting away from those people. Even those who happened to be my best friends. You see, your friends and the people you associate with should be positive for you. They should motivate you and bring out the best in you. They shouldn’t only come to you when they need something. That is not a true friend, even if you have fun sometimes. That took a long time to learn, and I’m still learning. 

The second thing is this: things aren’t always as bad as they seem. I’m a firm believer that you are allowed to feel every emotion, but, that doesn’t mean it’s real, and that doesn’t mean you have to act on it. A lot of the time when I thought “oh my god I hate this”,”I can’t do this”, or “I feel worthless/dead/alone/etc”, I was overreacting. My advice to you, is when you feel a negative emotion coming, face it. When you feel drained and tired and sad, stop for a second. Take a long, deep breath, and ask “why”. Why am I feeling this? Why did this occur? Why aren’t I happy? Analyzing what’s wrong can lead you to something as simple as “I’m tired”. And that is completely 100% okay. Find the source of the problem, and do what you can to fix it. Talk to someone if you feel you need to. 

In the opposite light, sometimes depression is a good thing. When you feel down, you tend to over-analyze things. Use that to your advantage. If you get upset about a problem you’re having, the depression can sometimes help you think of options you hadn’t or wouldn’t have thought of if you were in a better mood. Take my friend story I mentioned earlier. If I was happier, I might have just said “oh, this person is using me, but that’s okay because I’m their friend”. Instead, because of your mood, it’s become “this feels wrong”. Don’t let yourself be drawn to negative situations because of how you are feeling. Do things and spend time with people that make you happy. 

My very last tip is to express how you feel. This is something I should’ve learned long ago. Expressing how you feel doesn’t just mean talking to someone. Write, draw, or work out. Do something that lets you take what you’re feeling, and turn it into something else, rather than taking it out on yourself in a harmful way. Trust me, it’s a lot better this way. 

Everyone has times where they feel powerless, upset, frustrated, and done. And that’s totally okay. I mean it. Don’t let anyone tell you that what you’re feeling isn’t valid or that you’re doing it for attention. Everyone has their struggles they go through, and I hope I can help you through yours. Again, I am not a professional, I’m just a girl trying to help. 

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3 Things To Do On Social Media To Live A Better Life

Social media is something that nearly everyone uses (except my dad, who prefers the mysterious solitary life) and the effects can be more damaging than you realize. That being said, I have some questions for you. 

Are you happy or inspired when you scroll through your news feed?

Do you often find yourself liking every post that comes up or following many “famous” accounts?

Do you feel you should be getting more credit for the things you post?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, chances are, you’re using your social media wrong. And that’s okay! It’s an easy fix, and I’m here to help. 

Growing up as a kid, I followed a lot of celebrities or otherwise well-known pages on IG and FB (Instagram and Facebook). As I grew older and looked back at my accounts, I realized that all these meaningless pages did nothing for me. We have a habit of following people with different goals than us and it can make you feel overwhelmed, or that you can’t compare. Look through who you’re following and make sure that the pages are meaningful to you somehow. Whether it’s a page dedicated to working out, a diy page, or someone who posts inspiring quotes, don’t clog your feed with meaningless info, people, or drama. Only follow people and pages that will benefit you. 

Start a Pinterest, Dream or Vision Board. Let’s be honest, social media is addicting. But instead of mindlessly scrolling through stories or pictures, why not use social media to keep organized and motivated? Sign up for an app like Pinterest, and keep safe a huge inventory of things that are beneficial to you. You can create Boards to keep things like recipes, outfit inspiration, workout videos, the possibilities are nearly endless. Keeping everything organized and together can help you keep track of what you’re trying to accomplish, whether it’s weight loss, inspiration for a career, or in general a healthier lifestyle. 

The last tip I have for you is to only post things to social media that are important to you. Much like those other pages you’ll be following for inspiration, people will come to your pages more if you are authentic and have a “niche” with reoccurring topics. Whether you’re into art, history, or vegetarian meals, don’t worry about what other people will think, post things that make you feel something.  

And that’s it! Social media is an ever-growing source of information and entertainment, and we should be using it to our advantage. That being said, you can follow my day-to-day and the things I find inspiring on my social media, and I hope this helped! Leave a comment with your pages so I can follow you, and like this post so I know it helped! 

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National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month! 

Guys! Im totally gonna act like I didn’t just find this out like an hour ago, but March is National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month! I thought now would be as good a time as ever to talk about one of the things that makes me so unique. 

WARNING: The following post is 100% my own views, thoughts and opinions. I am not an expert on CP. Don’t get your legs in a twist. Haha. See what I did there?

Cerebral Palsy is a disability that affects the way the brain tells your limbs to function, and in some cases, may hinder motor skills/speech etc. I’m not going to get into the details of it, because again, I’m not a doctor. 

I’ve had CP ever since I was born. Its affected my life a whole heck of a lot, but hey, it’s who I am, and I wont fight that. People stare, and sometimes they’ll ask questions(which is totally cool!) or…They just keep staring, which isn’t so nice. Us people with disabilities like it when you inquire about the funny way our legs move, or why we use that weird cane thingy. Just don’t be rude about it, okay? 

And on that note, having a disability makes being an adult extremely hard. Wanna get hired someone? Automatically cross off all the jobs that say “you must be able to lift/move this amount” because you’re going to walk (or hobble, or roll) into that interview and they’re going to turn their noses up. Having a disability really makes finding jobs difficult. Luckily there are a lot of online/ at home jobs that we can sign up for. 

I’ve been fortunate enough to be one of the disabled who’s only been stared at or turned away from a job, and not one of the ones who has been bullied. If you happen to be one of those people reading right now, know this: I am so proud of you. You are special. You are loved. You are an inspiration. Keep your chin up. 

It hurts me a lot to know how uneven the playing field is when it comes to Us disabled people, but things are changing. More opportunities are created every day to make things easier on Us, and I will be a part of it. 

And you can be too. Know that we are Just As Able as anyone else, we just have our own ways of doing things sometimes. And hey, everyone is different and everyone is unique. We are all a piece of the puzzle, but it won’t work unless we fit together. ❤

The New Me 

Hey guys! It seems I’m posting on here less and less, but the truth and reality is, now that I’m done with school, there aren’t many things going on. I mean, I could write about all the little things I’m going through on a day-to-day basis, but that would make my posts overly-personal and that’s not why I created this blog. 

I created this blog nearly a year ago to share my origin story. The story of how I realized I was unhappy and how I was going to make it my life mission to become more positive and live a healthier life. By giving advice and telling you what has worked for me, I hope to do the same for others. But the intention of this blog isn’t to tell you every little thing I go through. 

We all have hectic lives, and there’s no doubt or shame in that. Growing up and being an adult means there are lots of thoughts, relationships, and responsibilities that need to be maintained and kept in check. Every passing day helps me to hone in on what’s really important. Writing this blog is extremely meaningful to me, but I need to make sure that what I tell you is just as meaningful. 

I know that having a more personal side to my posts is going to help create a better picture and help you get to know the girl behind the screen, so here and there I’ll let you in. But everyone has a right to keep their lives private or share what they want, and I know that keeping my day-to-day life on the DL isn’t going to harm anyone. 

I’ve been going through moving back into my dad’s for a short while until my mom finds her feet, and in this process I’ve been focusing on downsizing. Let’s be honest, how many girls complain that they don’t have enough clothes, yet you have an outfit for every day of the year? I’m going to be donating nearly three-quarters of the things that I own, including clothing, books, and knick knacks I have lying around. Part of living a less stressful life means being surrounded by less things that have little to no meaning to me. 

I’ve been doing the same thing with people. Like with the items, you need to find out which are actually important to you, and keep those. Anything that doesn’t add value to your life shouldn’t be in it. 

I urge you all to do the same. I have a while to go yet, but everything Continues and moves on. And so will I. I’m not quite reinventing myself, just defining what makes me, me. And finding out who you are is a beautiful thing. 

Metamorphasis

I apologize for my absence. I honestly haven’t had much to write about since I’ve been keeping to myself lately and handling yet another move. In keeping to myself, Ive realized that I am quite different than when I started this blog almost a year ago. 

I still and will always be the crazy girl with a big heart. That’s just who I am, and I have absolutely no shame in that. But I also used to be the girl that struggled with being opinionated. The girl that struggled with being herself because she was so focused on other people. 

I’ve changed tremendously due to recent experiences. I now fully realize that (even though I’ve said it before) this is my life, and I needed to focus on me and do what makes me happy. Quite a lot of my time was spent doing things that others wanted me to do, even when I didn’t want to. It’s been a slow process, but I think the realization finally kicked in. 

I’m more independent than I’ve ever been before. I realize that even though people can hit you up with a text or two, doesn’t mean that they’re genuinely interested in what you have to say. I’ve been spending time with those that matter, and only saying things that are meaningful. I’ve cut a lot of people out of my life, but honestly it’s for the better. 

And I encourage you to do the same. I know it might be hard, but think about it this way: why keep an entire drawer of things you never use instead of just keeping what you know you really benefit from? 

Don’t let people walk all over you just because you like their company. Form bonds with people, and make sure they’re beneficial to your life in some way or another. 

On another note, I’ve decided to combine the instagram quote page with my personal page since it’s already linked to my blog. If you’d like to follow me, my username is continuationproject 🙂

All The Feels 

The new year has started, and though I had an extremely positive mindset going in, it’s kind of diminished now. But the thing that I’ve come to realize and accept is, that’s okay. 

We all have New Year’s resolutions or goals that we want to achieve, and the drive is enough to get us there. Wanting it is enough for some people. But for others, it can be a little more difficult. Obstacles get in the way. Negative emotions flare up. But that doesn’t mean you won’t get there. 

Humans are complex beings that experience hundreds of different emotions. I’ve learned that you have to let these emotions happen. You have to accept what is going on in your life in order to move on or get around it. I’ve dealt with people who refuse to acknowledge these negative emotions (including myself in some situations). They refuse to accept them or they bottle them up until they explode. 

Don’t do that. It’s not good for you, or those around you. Whatever is going on in your life to make you feel a certain way, accept it. If you’re having a good day, that’s great. If you’re going through a rough patch and want to cry your eyes out, go ahead! But don’t ever hold back from feeling something. Emotions are meant to be felt. Accept what is happening, analyze how it’s making you feel, and Continue. 

I Can Do This 

If you have a dream, an aspiration, a goal, what’s stopping you? Don’t ever give up for something your heart is yearning for. I know that sounds a bit cliche, but I’m serious. If you don’t put in the work, you’re never going to get anywhere. 

So put down your phone, the TV remote, get out of bed. Do things that inspire you and make you feel something inside. Create the life you want. It is yours, after all. An empty canvas for you to do anything with. An empty book and you hold the pen. 

If you’re scared of failure, if you’re scared of the process or pain, do it anyway. Push through to reach your goal. Fight for what you want, always. I know you’ll achieve great things, and here’s to a new year. ❤ 

Always Be Prepared

Life is going to throw curve balls. Plans are going to get cancelled, friends are going to leave and relationships are going to end. And that’s just how it goes. Life has a funny way of turning out differently than you expect it. But with that, you have to be prepared. You have to be knowledgeable and ready. 

Because when things don’t go as planned it can hurt. I know as well as anyone else what it’s like to be in that position. But you have to accept that these things happen, and not to be dramatic, but the thought that the fun might end at any time has to stay in the back of your mind at all times. 

It’s much better to know these things could happen and be ready when they do, than getting caught up in the thrill and regretting it later. 

Take your time. Enjoy every second. This is your story, and it doesn’t come with an eraser. Live consciously in the moment and make sure you’re as prepared as you can be, because you never know what could happen. 

As the year comes to a close, I wish you all the best. Thank you to those who have supported me and have been with me through my journey. And lastly, continue. Life the life you crave. Do things that set fire to your soul. Find your calling. Find yourself. And continue. 

Fear Not

Being afraid to voice an opinion can keep us from a lot of things. We’re afraid of rejection, being wrong, or generally just getting a negative response. Being afraid is normal, but you can’t let it hold you back.

When something occurs and it bothers you, you can’t be afraid to speak up because you don’t want to hurt the other person. That’s something I had to learn the hard way. Ever since I was little I was considered a pushover. It made me into who I am(or was, until recently) and it ruined a lot of things for me. Nobody wants to be the bad guy that ruins the “fun”, but sometimes, it’s better to be that person if you honestly feel it’s a bad situation.

Stand up for yourself. You are your own person and you need to live your own life. Be vocal and tell people how you feel. Tailor your words (if the situation permits) so that you don’t come off mean, but never be afraid of sharing an opinion. That’s the great thing about them: they’re never wrong(you get what I mean). If you think differently than someone else, it doesn’t mean that they’re right and your not. And if you hear their side and your views change, then that’s perfectly okay, too. Just make sure you’re doing it for yourself and not the other person.

You are your own person who has their own thoughts and opinions. Don’t let fear stop you from voicing them. And as always, chin up, deep breath, and continue.