It’s easy to get caught up in the vision of where you’d like to be in the future. The end goal can be so intoxicating that we forget about what it will take to get there. A good friend of mine recently faced this struggle. My advice to him? Know where you want to go, but focus on how to get there first.
In the society we live in, it’s easy to view television ads, read articles, and meet people who seemingly have their lives perfected. They have everything together, but that’s only what they project. How did they get to where they are now? Sure, some people might be born into a wealthy or otherwise successful lifestyle, but let’s face it. That’s rare. For us everyday people, we must learn to set goals to get where and what we want.
I was never one to have a productive lifestyle, create a schedule, plan, etc. but now that I’m older, and have people around me in the same situations, it’s become more clear what I need to do. If you’re someone like me who tends to be more on the lazy side, that’s perfectly okay. Find a plan that works for you, and stay true to it until you get the end result you want.
Start small. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and you aren’t going to get where you want to be without stepping stones. Let’s use my life and goals as an example. My end goal is to move in with my boyfriend ( /future family) and have a successful job doing something in psychology. To get there? My first goal is to get out of highschool. Whatever your first goal is, take that and make it even smaller. What, within this first goal, do you have to focus on? For me it’s passing math (blegh). So, focus on the task that will help you complete the goal, and then once it’s done you can move on to the next with one less thing to worry about.
An easy way to start is to create a tangible schedule or routine of what you need to get done for that day. Starting off with small, easy tasks like this will help you prepare for making a larger goals.
The most successful people in the world didn’t get to where they are by just hoping that they would stumble upon the life. They had to work for it. And so do you. Keep the end result in mind, but focus on the steps to get there; the smaller the better (and easier!). Stick with your plan. What will it take to complete each task? Focus on each microgoal and continue from there. And most importantly, if something should happen to not work out the way you planned, take longer than expected or prove to be more challenging? Ask yourself, “do I really want to work for this? Will pushing through this benefit me, even if the end result could change?” You can get anywhere you want in life. You just have to know where you want to go, and how to get there.